Wednesday, August 24, 2011
Back to School!
So, I have taken a different tack with my daughter. I provide the clothing - she gets to have some say - and once its in her closet, she can wear it any way, and in any strange combination, that she chooses, so long as it is age appropriate. (My daughter is 6; she is not going to dress like she's 16. Take THAT "Shake It Up" clothes) With respect to her hair, so long as it's brushed, I don't care how she wears it - down, ponytail, 25 mismatched barrettes. I say go crazy!
At some point, her peers will crush her into shape. They will probably make fun of her, laugh at her and make her feel awful about herself and how she looks. She doesn't need that from me. Besides, when she gets raised eyebrows at the grocery store or by the teacher, I just say "H dressed herself today!" My daughter is a reflection of me - but I care much more about the heart of her than the surface; and much more about what SHE thinks of me than what the other people in the grocery store think. Anyway, that is my long disclaimer for her clothing and hair choices in her back to school pictures!
By 3rd grade, back to school is just a hassle - an intrusion into an otherwise perfect summer. At the end of the day, there's no burst of excitement about what happened. On the contrary, it's difficult to drag even a few sentences out of him. What did you do today? - "Spelling"; what was your favorite thing about today? - "Recess" One word answers, reluctantly given, followed by "Can I go outside?" Yesterday morning (day 2, mind you) B tried to fake being sick so he could stay home; today, Steve had to practically drag him out of bed. Fake tears on Day Three. I think it's going to be a long year!